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UNITARIAN UNIVERSALIST CHURCH
West Lafayette, Indiana


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The Lighted Chalice
UNITARIAN UNIVERSALIST CHURCH
Lafayette, Indiana ~ ~ April 21, 2005

Worship Schedule
Sunday Service at 10:30 a.m.
Childcare Available


 

April 24 

Spiritual Journeys
Speaker: Jim Hermiller
Worship Associate: Hilary Krivchenia
Sanctuary Prep: Amy French
Pianist: Jo Ann Mullen
Sound: Sharon McKnight

 


 

May 1

Tales from the Life of the Buddha
Speaker: Hilary Krivchenia
Joys and Concerns Sharing
Food for Thought Lunch

CONGREGATIONAL MEETING

Canned Goods Donation Day
Worship Associate: Charles Coley
Sanctuary Prep: Terry Kercher
Pianist: Lisa Drake
Sound: Kevin Sondergrath 

 

 

May 8

Mother’s Day

Rocks in the Path: A Study of Walking
Speaker: Hilary Landau Krivchenia
Sanctuary Prep: Nina Kirkpatrick
Pianist: Lisa DrakeS
Sound: Eric Thiel

 

 

Next newsletter deadline:

Sunday, May 1, 2005 NOON
Covering May 5-19, 2005

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What is the Value of This Church?

The UUC Board recently convened a Congregational Self-Assessment Team to create a picture of the current state of the church. The assessment, much like a tax assessment, is based on many different ways of determining value. We will be surveying our membership; we will be holding focus groups; we will be reviewing past work. We are asking for your support and assistance in creating a broad and comprehensive review of our value.

Love is the Spirit of this Church

UUC's value is in the people. We are a church created, governed and supported by a diverse population. Every single member and friend of UUC has unique needs and talents.  The survey we will be sending out is seeking to determine trends among these needs and talents. What is it that our congregation wants out of the church? What initiatives are lacking? What special talents are available that we have not tapped?

And Service is its Law

We cannot function without the help of our members and friends. Your opinions are invaluable. We are asking that you participate openly, honestly and in a spirit of love and trust. We sent out these surveys to all members and friends on April 15. We trust that each one of you will serve by completing them thoughtfully and returning them by April 29. We are also depending on you to provide an open, honest dialogue on May 22 at the focus group discussions.

This is our Covenant

To Dwell Together in Peace

Critique is not attack. We want to know where our church is, both positive and negative. We hope that everyone will participate in discussing the state of our church openly and in a spirit of love and trust. Once we determine where we are, we can determine where we need to go, and the best route for getting there.

To Seek the Truth in Love

The truth is we have problems. The truth also is that we have solutions. We just need you to assist us in identifying them.

And to Help One Another

Please help us make UUC the strongest, the best, and the most valuable church it can be.  Fill out your surveys.  Come to the focus group discussions. 

 

 


Congregational Self Assessment Is On Its Way

A dedicated group spent the better portion of Thursday evening at a "Mailing Party" at the church; printing, folding, stamping, stuffing and sorting. The end result was mailing of the Congregational Self-Assessment to 330 members and friends of the church. 

A big "thank you!" to the group: Amy French, Herschel Lewis, Ernie McDaniel, Tippen McDaniel, Robin Poindexter,  and Janice Thiel.

                                    --Dianna Poindexter, Chair, Congregational Self Assessment Team

 


          

Attendance Clipboards Helping

Thanks congregation! It has taken a while, but I think we all are doing better about signing the attendance forms.  Sometimes extra rows of chairs get set up in the back after the service has started so that those people do not have a clipboard. If you are sitting near the back, please see if you need to send your clipboard to the rows behind you.

 Thanks for your cooperation, this has been most helpful in getting address, e-mails, etc. entered and updated in our central database.  

                        Della Willmann, Greeting and Membership Committee

 


 

Greeting and Membership Needs Your Help
 

The Greeting and Membership committee is in need of more help. We are an active committee with several important jobs. We organize the New UU&U classes, write letters of welcome to visitors, and serve as greeters every Sunday morning. 

These activities can be broken down into small segments if we have enough help. We meet the first Thursday evening of each month at 7 p.m. and finish by 8 p.m. Please let Della Willmann know (d.willmann@verizon.net) if you would like to join this delightful group of people. 

 

 


Thanks for the Help

To all the folks who came out on April 2 to help with needed cleaning and painting - a BIG thank you. Projects were completed and good fellowship happened. It was fun to work together, eat together, and have time to visit. It was shared that, "Those who sweat together, stick together." 

                                    The Worship & Music Committee

 


Congregational Self Assessment

A Congregational Self Assessment Team (CSAT) has been formed to implement a self assessment that was created by Long Range Plan Committee last year.  

The team is comprised of Long Range Plan members (Liz Grauerholz, Joan Marshall), Committee on Ministry members (Hilary Krivchenia, Ruth Ann Ferris, Herschel Lewis), Ernest McDaniel, Amy French, and Dianna Poindexter.

We are meeting weekly to discuss the details of this very important task and plan to share more information with the congregation soon.  

                                          CSAT chairperson, Dianna Poindexter



            

All Church Retreat

Aug 12-14 at 'A' frame at Ross Camp. The Retreat is a great way for new folks to get to know the old folks & the old folks to learn who the children are. Ross Camp is located 11 miles out South River RD from the intersection of ST RD 26 and US 231 in West Lafayette. This 200 acre, mostly wooded property is just west of Ross Hills Park. Located on the property are the A-frame Lodge with barracks style dorms, a campground with modern and primitive sites, a catch and release fishing pond, and several wooded hiking trails.

 


Rummage Sale!

The annual UU Rummage Sale will be held Saturday, May 21. It’s time to get rid of all that STUFF! You can drop it off at church on Friday, May 20. 

If you need help or information please call Beth Misner.

Let me know if you are bringing anything that would look good in the newspaper announcement. START RUMMAGING!

 


Letter from UU Service Committee

Dear Friends,

Thank you so much for your recent contribution of $200 received on February 1, 2005 and designated for humanitarian relief in connection with the tsunami-related disaster in South & Southeast Asia.

UUSC will be working with the marginalized and poorest populations in India, Sri Lanka, and Indonesia. We are partnering with organizations on the local level whose vision aligns with our shared values.

As in many disasters, the survivors need help to rebuild their homes and their livelihoods. Poor sanitation, contaminated water, and the disruption of health services contribute to the spread of disease.

Fishing communities in all areas have been hardest hit. Already struggling with poverty and an uncertain livelihood, they now find themselves completely destitute. We will be working to help these communities so that the fishing boats can once again provide an income for those who work on them and provide food for the communities surrounding them.

In India, we will be working closely with the UUA’s Holdeen India Program partners as well as UUSC’s partners. Again, our focus will be on ensuring that people can regain their lost occupations and return as quickly as possible to a situation of stability and safety.

The recovery will take time. But your generosity has helped to ensure that long after the media have ceased to focus on the tragedy, the survivors of this catastrophic event will be supported on their way to recovering their lives and dignity.

Thank you again, for your generosity.

                                                            Charlie Clements, President & CEO

 


 

A note from the Heartland District:

Mary Andrus Overly, Heartland’s District Executive for the last four years, announced her resignation at the district annual meeting and conference. Her last day of work is Friday, April 22.

The board has accepted her resignation with grateful appreciation for the many gifts Mary has brought to this role and which have contributed to the health and growth of the district over the years.

 

 


 

Hospice Presentation at UUC May 11

  Carmen Balfour, Community Liaison for Hospice of Lafayette, will be giving a presentation May 11, from 7 to 9 p.m. She will cover what services Hospice provides, the philosophy of Hospice, the emotional and physical aspects of dying, communication, and other important issues surrounding death and dying. 

Please sign up at the back table, no fee is required, but registration is important so that we have sufficient written information. Call Della Willmann with questions.

 


Writer’s Group Explores Spirituality

The Writer's Interest Group has been exploring "what does it mean to spiritualize our nature." 

We have each written on what spirituality means to us and have compiled a small booklet which will be available on the rear table on Sunday. We invite you to take one and enjoy. We would be interested in having anyone who is interested submit their thoughts on spirituality for possible inclusion Volume 2 of the booklet.

We would also be open to comments and discussion. Contact Caroline Barnhart.  

 


 

Book Group

7 p.m., Monday, May 9, 2005
        “The Dogs of Babel” by Caroline Parkhurst
7 p.m., Monday, June 13, 2005
        “Snow Falling on Cedars”  by David Guterson

The UU Book Group meets on the second Monday of every month at 7 p.m. at Borders Bookshop in Wabash Landing in the lounge area where it joins with Panera’s. 

All are welcome to join us for discussions of books selected by participants. 

For more information contact Dagmar Murray, at 463-5223

 


 

Remember to Send Us Your News

There are many different vehicles for communication in the congregation – but the most important vehicle is our newsletter. It is a hub of information, a touchtone for planning, a bulletin board, a means of more deeply connecting our community. By all means always explore five ways of getting your word out – but always make sure that the first way is the newsletter.--Hilary

And when you are sending your information, please be reminded what Della Willman recently wrote: “I was looking over the calendar of events and many initials are used which would make it very difficult for new people to know what is going on. Including me.” So please spell it out!

 


Thinking Scripture


Join us on April 28th for open-minded discussion of the Book of Nehemiah. We welcome both experts and people reading the Bible for the first-time We meet the 2nd & 4th Thursday of each month 7 to 8:30 p.m.. Contact Rev. Hilary Krivchenia or Janice Thiel (uuc@uulafayette) if you have question.

 


Choir Director Invites Participation in Local Choral Workshop 

Our church choir director, Denise Gilliland, encourages choir members and other singers in the congregation to participate in “Festival of Praise: A Choral Workshop” on June 3-6.

Sponsored by the Bach Chorale, this special event offers the opportunity to learn choral music under the direction of Craig Jessop, Music Director of the Mormon Tabernacle Choir.

Rehearsals on Friday, Saturday, and Sunday at West Lafayette High School will conclude with a public concert Monday evening at St. Mary Cathedral.

Registration is $40. Our choir director will receive a special premium if enough singers from our church attend, but all registrations must be sent in together. For more information contact Denise Gilliland.

 


Choir Has New Rehearsal Schedule

Our weekly church choir rehearsal schedule will change to Wednesday evenings at 8:00-9:30 p.m. beginning April 27.

The change will be more accommodating for our singers and for building use considerations. If you’ve been thinking of joining the UUC choir, now is the time! We’re learning a jazz arrangement of “Go Tell It On the Mountain.”

                              --Denise Gilliland, Choir Director

 


Unveiling of the UU Marriage Equality Banner         

 The unveiling of the UU Marriage Equality Banner will take place on Wednesday, April 27, 2005 from 5:30-6:30 p.m. There will be a brief ceremony outside the church followed by a reception indoors. All are welcome.

Please join together as we mark the eighth anniversary of our decision to become a Welcoming Congregation and publicly declare our commitment to work for the rights and dignity of gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgendered people.

Note the special insert in this issue of the Lighted Chalice, which you may post or share with friends. For more information contact Social Action Committee Chair Joan Marshall.

                                                --Kaye McSpadden

  


From Social Responsibility Committee:   Caring Cans Sunday

The first Sunday of the month, May 1, please bring healthy snacks and juice for the LUM After School program. 

The collection will be upstairs as the children leave for their classes. If you aren't able to bring food the first Sunday, just leave it in the designated box beside the side door anytime.                                                

 


Clothing Collection

Mark your calendars for our clothing collection Saturday, June 11 in the church parking lot. 

Goodwill gives us a $5 voucher for each bag of clothing donated. 

These vouchers are given to LUM, Cary Home, and the Women's Shelter to be distributed as needed. Then they are exchanged at Goodwill stores for the needed clothing.  Goodwill bags will be available soon.

Last year we were successful in collecting a few slightly used men's and women's business clothing on hangers and covered to be distributed to individuals needing clothing for interviews, funerals, etc.

Also keep in mind that Tippecanoe Childcare can use dress up clothes or jewelry when you are sorting your give away clothing.

The Social Responsibility Committee's next meeting will be Sunday May 15, Room 1downstairs at noon. All are welcome to attend.

                                                            Sue Robinson


 

Note from Tracy Knechel

As I prepare to graduate from seminary (May 7) and become ordained (May 8), I am deeply appreciative for the time I spend with you as member and minister-in-training.  I have been the half time pastor at Mack Memorial Church of the Brethren and half time at First United Methodist Church in Dayton, OH since January and continue to learn the ins and outs of ministry.

                                    May you continue in the light,  Tracy Knechel

 


 

In Memory

Our sympathies to the families of Charlene Stone and Julia Vanderkolk.

Charlene Fairchild Mullins Stone, 77, of Asheville, N.C., died April 5 after a lengthy period of declining health. She and her husband, Shelley, lived in West Lafayette for 35 years, and she was an active member of our church for many years.


Julia Marie Townsley Vanderkolk, 82, mother of Kathleen Peyton, died April 11. She was raised in Lafayette and Chalmers and was a 1940 graduate of Jefferson High School. She enjoyed needlework, reading, gardening and shore walking.

 


 

Religious Education Happenings

Religious Education Director: Sarah Boulac
RE Committee Co-Chairs: Beth Misner, Cheryl Fowler

 

UU Youth!  RE Youth Activities

People tell me that until relatively recently, the UU of Lafayette had a very active Youth RE Program. 

It was thoughtful, productive, and just plain fun. The program went dormant when the most active members moved away or grew up. Now it is time to revive that sleeping program! 

We began in good earnest by having a Youth Dedication on April 17, where instead of dedicating an expected four or five young people, we had a turnout of 13! 

On April 10, we went to All Fired Up to create individual chalices, using blanks, glaze and a lot of good will. Each participant designed his or her chalice with a personal image in mind. The chalices were then used during the Dedication both as a symbol of the work that each young person is willing to do in pursuit of spiritual growth, but also as the child herself, receiving the teaching and care of parents, the congregation and the greater Unitarian Universalist Church.

You might think that making the chalices was merely for fun, or that it was the first piece of work that we are doing in pursuit of our revived program. Not so! We asked the young people to think hard about what they wanted on their chalices, and I hope you had a chance to look at the chalices while they were in the sanctuary.  Not only were they remarkably pretty, but there was a variety of religious and spiritual images taken directly from the Sunday RE classes; we had symbols taken from Islam, Buddhism, Hinduism, as well as more personal totems.  The work began long before I arrived!

At the Dedication, our “dedicants” agreed to bond with their fellow youth, as well as become active members of the congregation. These young people will, I trust, be the designers of our new Youth RE program. It has certainly been a pleasure to work with them so far!

                                                -- Michele Tomarelli

 

 

Michelle Tomarelli

Office hours:  10:00 to 2:00 T-Th
Phone:  497-7792 (h) or 412-6196 (c)
Email:  tomarelli@gmail.com.

 

Sarah Boulac

Office hours are Tuesdays and Thursdays. 
Phone: 414-2342
Email:  sboulac@gmail.com

                                        

Teacher Schedule

                                                April 24                                    May 1 

Caterpillar Teacher                   C. Frye                                        TBA                              

Caterpillar Helper                     TBA                                            TBA                                       

Butterfly Class                          B. Misner                                    S. Boulac

2-3 Class                                 S. Boualc                                     C. Fowler

4-5 Class                                 K. Laird & K. Campbell-Laird     K. Laird & K. Campbell Laird

6-8 Class                                 V. Thomas                                   L. Grauerholz & C. Falley

 

Upcoming Events

 

May 1, Our Whole Lives (OWL) Ceremony. The Religious Education Committee will recognize the journey the seventh through ninth graders have taken this year as they have explored sexuality and their faith through this program.  All participants are invited to join us for this ceremony which will take place during the early portion of the service.

Religious Education Registrations –  RE asks that parents complete a registration form for all children and youth attending classes by their third visit.  This form includes information such as any allergies or special information about your child, the best way to contact you and your child’s grade. It is important to have one for each child so that we can better plan for future programs and keep you informed of events through periodic mailings. These are located in the back of the sanctuary, in the mail slot under the RE Bulletin board downstairs, from your child’s teacher, or from Sarah Boulac or Michele Tomarelli, Co-DREs.

 

                                                                                                                                                                


 

Sunday Morning Forum

The Sunday Morning Forum meets at 9 a.m. in the Red Cross Building across the parking lot from the church. Everyone is welcome! Childcare is provided.                       


The traditions we share draw from many sources including wisdom from the world’s religions which inspires us in our ethical and spiritual life.

Those who would welcome a deeper immersion into Sunday’s discussion of Hinduism will profit from the web site http://www.caip.rutgers.edu/~kanth/jwz/mbm/sv/address2.html

April 24. "Religion in Japan – A Review of a Complex Subject." Junko Yamauchi

May 1. "Buddhism." Don Mitchell.


The next Forum planning meeting will be at John Wilm’s house on Saturday, April 23 at 9:30 a.m. Coffee and doughnut holes will reward the attendees.

 


 

Minister’s Muse  

 

Each Sunday service offers a new opportunity for the community to gather, to see one another, to hear about one another’s lives and to sit together and consider a topic that runs deep. 

I’ve shared with you before how it sometimes strikes me as odd, since I know a good bit about so many people in the congregation, that we also gather on Sunday and seem to look so neat and trim in our seats, looking unruffled by the world and as though our lives are smooth and simple. It’s odd to me because I often look into your faces and know that you have real struggles in your lives and that you sit beside people who also have real struggles. 

This rose in sharp relief on Sunday, April 10, when we shared a service in honor of Child Abuse Awareness and Prevention month. There were powerful stories and a candle lighting in which people were invited to come forward if they were survivors of abuse, or were close to someone who is a survivor, or have helped survivors, or work as counselors… it was a safe occasion because each person could light a candle without being labeled and they could wordlessly share their own struggles with the world we inhabit in which we’re so at risk and experience and witness so much suffering. 

There were many tears. It was a powerful communion of hearts. Since that Sunday people have come to me and shared their stories – often the stories of their work, or of people they love, of their own dawning recognition of the suffering in their own lives, and the strength and wisdom they have developed. Every Sunday can’t be like that (phew!) but it’s powerful to acknowledge that we’re struggling people in a struggling world. We derive enormous strength from being willing to share our journeys, our learning, and the simple/complex reality of being human. 

Sylvia Boorstein, a teacher at the Spirit Rock Meditation Center, wrote a good commentary on this in an article aptly entitled “I’m Not O.K., You’re Not O.K.— and that’s O.K.” She wrote: “Psychologists reassure us of the appropriateness of our “non-O.K.-ness.” Each of us carries the gifts of our heritage, our family and our culture, as well as its wounds. It can’t be otherwise. A psychologist friend of mind once said, “If you wanted it perfect, you came to the wrong planet.”  I am imagining this understanding, tacit or spoken, as the cornerstone of all healing relationships.

What an important cornerstone for a community! Being together as friends, partners, co-workers on a committee, as a congregation is easier if, while we strive to be our very best, most loving, skillful, caring, and thoughtful selves, we also remember for each other that “Each of us carries the gifts of our heritage, our family and our culture, as well as its wounds.” 

Here, on this planet, in this reality. It’s our ability to remember this that allows us to understand our many perspectives on matters of importance, allows us to be gentler with one another, helps us to survive when someone fails to be gentle, helps us strive for the next learning, and that helps us to understand the gift and challenge that it is to be a congregation with hopes and dreams as well as flaws and blurry vision.

It’s powerful to be in a community that recognizes that we aren’t perfect. Boorstein comments: “there isn’t another planet where you are, actually, perfect.” How important to be in a loving community that strives to provide the means for learning and growing together! 

Every Sunday, in meetings, in conversations, in my observations of the congregation I see how much energy is crackling here. New things are happening, new ideas bubbling up, and new people are bringing new perspectives here.

So it’s my hope that we can find the right balance – to recognize our lack of perfection and not use it as an excuse – but use it to motivate us to work harder to do community with more love and understanding.  To speak of hope and vision and to work to strengthen one another’s dreams into reality. It is good to be human together.  Boorstein writes:

“Are you O.K.?

“No. Not really. How about you?”

“Not me, either. But I’m O.K. to talk about it. It makes the journey less lonely.”

May we always strive to find that place we touched on the 10th, when we made the journey less lonely for one another and in so doing uncovered our humanness and our greatest strength.

 


 

          

Lighted Chalice
Unitarian Universalist Church
17 S. 7th Street
Lafayette IN 47901-1637

The office is open Monday through Friday 9:00-1:00.

E-mail: uuc@uulafayette.org
Home page:  http://www.uulafayette.org
Publication: Every other Thursday
Submission deadline: Preceding Sunday at noon

Send to: lightedchalice@yahoo.com

 

Minister: Rev. Hilary Landau Krivchenia
Phone: 742-0460;
minister@uulafayette.org 

To meet with Rev. Krivchenia, call the office, email her at b.uurevhilaryk@verizon.net, or call her home office 463-6201.

Religious Education:

Michelle Tomarelli
Office hours:  10:00 to 2:00 T-Th
Phone:  497-7792 (h) or 412-6196 (c)
Email:  tomarelli@gmail.com.

 

Sarah Boulac
Office hours are Tuesdays and Thursdays. 
Phone: 414-2342
Email:  sboulac@gmail.com

 

Secretary: Kathy Louks
Phone: 742-0460, e-mail: uuc@uulafayette.org
Office hours: 9 a.m.-1 p.m. Monday to Friday 

Board Chair: Noemi Ybarra         Phone: 742-0460 
 

Editors:

Kaye McSpadden, Phone: 743-3634, kaye7m@aol.com

Nancy Patchen, Phone: 497-1259, nhmp@verizon.net

Lynn Holland, Phone: 583-2703,  lholland@nursing.purdue.edu  

Webspinner: Dianna Poindexter,dianna1@wildmail.com  

 

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